The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot

Violet Blue's writing always makes for an enjoyable read, and this book is no exception. Literate, intelligent, witty, and irreverent, The Smart Girl's Guide to the G-Spot conveys in-depth information about a woman's anatomy, the mechanics of arousal and orgasm, and the wide variety of ways by which women can be pleasured. It is presented in a accessible and totally non-threatening way that won't have even the most vanilla of readers shying away from its message.

Two things I particularly like about Violet's books: (1) she never comes across as judgmental about one's sexual triggers or lack thereof, and (2) she does an excellent job of advising folks who might be intimidated by the prospect of introducing a new sexual scenario into a relationship. Regardless of the scenario in question, these two things effectively empower the reader.

I learned a thing or two, and I've been intimately acquainted with my g-spot for years.

Interspersed with the no-nonsense advice are four erotic short stories by Alison Tyler, which I consider a delightful bonus.

Until next time...

peace & passion,

~ Alessia

Bill & Desiree: Love Is Timeless

When Bill asked me to do this review, I first let out a "Whoop!" then responded with an enthusiastic "Hell, yes!" email. Of course, he couldn't hear the shout, but I hope my enthusiasm came through the words on the screen. I've been intensely curious about Comstock Films since I first became aware of them, and I intended to acquire & review each -- just had never made the time. I had watched each of the previews on the website and was virtually paralyzed with indecision on which title to do first. Thankfully, Bill decided for me.

This film is a perfect example of the difference between the erotic and the pornographic (which is, incidentally, a subject I've been attempting to discuss on Squidoo). While the subject matter is undoubtedly adult and delightfully explicit, it is definitely not porn. Watching a committed couple have sex -- make love, if that's the terminology preferred -- is far, far different than the choreographed artificiality and staged cum shots of the typical porn fare. It is both titillating and empowering, something that can't be said about any adult film I've ever seen... until now.

The most striking aspect of this documentary-style feature is the wondrous awe with which both Bill & Desiree approach each other and their sex. They not only get off together, they have bawdy, uninhibited FUN while doing it. Everyone should be blessed with such a relationship! Intermingled with the soft sighs and orgasmic moans, there is giggling and grinning. The clear adoration in Bill's expression makes this DVD worth its weight in gold.

In fact, although I'm not suggesting anyone do so, this is precisely the type of positive portrayal that youth should have as their first exposure to sex and relationships.  Ever wonder what the world would be like if our first impressions of "ideal" sex weren't formed by unrealisitically-proportioned bodies being objectified or completely degraded? Unfortunately, it takes people decades to overcome the stigma of "perfection" in both their bodies and their sex lives. Some -- both women and men -- never do, and that's a damned shame.

The sex is incredibly hot and incredibly fun, and getting to know Bill & Desiree through the candid interview is the icing on this pleasure cake.  Beautiful people sharing a beautiful love story. Kudos to Comstock Films!

peace & passion,

~ Alessia

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Bill & Desiree: Love is Timeless is the latest installment in director Tony Comstock's award-winning Real People, Real Life, Real Sex series of erotic documentaries.

Bill and Desiree's story starts in the second half of life: a chance meeting, a powerful attraction, a carnal connection, and a deep, sensual love. Through an intimate and lively interview, we hear the story of how Bill and Desiree met, and what drew them to each other. When we witness the playful intensity of their beautifully photographed lovemaking, we see that pleasure is ageless, and that love is indeed timeless!

Bill & Desiree: Love is Timeless is a film about passion, about desire; a film that gives older lovers a reason to celebrate, and younger lovers something to look forward to. Bill & Desiree: Love is Timeless is a film that invites us to re-imagine what love can be and should be in our later years.

Annie Sprinkle’s Amazing World of Orgasm

I'm not sure what I expected from this DVD, but what I got definitely was not it. It's been touted as a "must see" for those wishing to learn more about orgasm. I disagree. Totally. I suppose if I could figure out the target audience, I might be able to pen a more favorable review. I don't think those who are having trouble reaching orgasm will derive much benefit from the information shared. In fact, it would intimidate many, especially more vanilla folk (who often seem to be most in need of accurate, practical information). And I don't think those who simply seek more and/or better orgasms will benefit either.

The novice is not going to find reassurance or practical tips beyond the "go with the flow" message. The advice is not bad, mind you; it's just recycled. The expert is just going to shrug and say, "Well, duh."

The best I can say about this 2004 film is that it does well in capturing the diversity of approach to orgasm. To that end, it succeeds almost too well because the diversity of its cast is more intriguing than the advice provided.
There were a couple too-brief segments which attempted to define various types of orgasm that I found interesting, but on the whole, I thought the production was rather disorganized. Add to that the distracting, new-agey graphics, and the whole 53-minute thing was difficult to endure. It's not going to win any awards for editing, direction, sound, or special effects. That's for damned sure.

Orgasm is undoubtedly a multi-faceted beast. It can be physical, emotional, or spiritual (or any combination of the three), and I don't think any form of orgasm instruction would be complete without addressing those aspects. However, this film focuses too heavily on the spiritual, almost to the exclusion of the actual mechanics of orgasm, to be of any instructional value.

peace & passion,

~ Alessia